Showing posts with label Remembering Names. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Remembering Names. Show all posts

Saturday, July 30, 2016

The Secret To Remembering People: Make Them Your Keynote

So far we have talked about remembering names. Now we must talk about remembering people. After all, a name is merely a label; the person behind the label is what counts. Unless you are interested, genuinely interested, in the people you meet, you cannot and will not remember their names.

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Using Mental Pictures

 The use of striking mental pictures is so valuable that it is worth examining in more detail. I once witnessed a memory demonstration by a man named DWight Ashley. Mr. Ashley was introduced just once to each person in a room containing perhaps thirty-live people. He took his time with these introductions; he repeated each name once and sometimes twice; occasionally he asked for the spelling as soon as the introductions were completed, Mr. Ashley badge had each person stand up-and they stood up in random order-whereupon he repeated the person’s name. He did not miss a single one.  How did he do it? Mr. Ashley described his method to the group: “I made an amusing mental picture of each person, a picture that helped me to associate the name with the man. For instance, I remembered Mr. Starrett by putting an angel’s star over his head. When Mr. Starrett stood up, that angel’s star rose over him like the eve of the first Christmas. It practically illuminated the room. I couldn’t miss it.”

Repetition Is Vital

In learning new vocabulary words, you will find that repeating them is vital. The same holds true in learning and remembering someone’s name. Watch a good name-man in action. As soon as he’s introduced, he’ll acknowledge it with a “Very pleased to meet you Mr. Barton,” or with a similar comment. He’ll say the person’s name immediately. Then Mr. Barton’s name will pop into the conversation at Virtually every succeeding sentence. When departing, the last remark will be something like, “I hope we meet again, Mr. Barton.” The good name-man will have used Mr. Barton's name as many times as possible. Repetition, as we said before, is the key to retention. 

How To Learn And Remember Names

“I can’t seem to remember your name” is about the costliest sentence there is. It can cost a salesman an order. It can cost a business executive the loyalty of a subordinate. It can cost a teacher the respect of a student. And it’s safe to say that if you use this sentence, ever, it will cost you a friend.